Updated: Dec 26, 2020
When we talk of an STI, the first thing that comes to your mind is how to stay away from it,
and it is fairly easy to protect yourselves from an STI too, if you really are cautious, in this
1. Sexual abstinence is the ultimate solution to most of the sexually associated problems,
and it is recommended that one abstains from all kinds of oral, vaginal and anal
intercourse. It prevents one from STIs and nulls chances of getting pregnant too.
2. If not sexual abstinence, being monogamous is the next best solution, provided that
both of you are honest in the relationship and have got tested for STIs prior to
indulging with each other.
3. If you have got out of your monogamous relationship or frequent with sexual partners,
then the best alternative to you can be to use condoms and/or dental dams for oral and
penetrative sex. This will significantly reduce your risk of catching an STI or
transferring the same.
4. Moreover, frequently get tested for possible STIs. Discuss with your doctor on how
regularly you need to be tested based on your lifestyle and risk factors involved.
5. Get vaccinated for the HPV, Hepatitis A and Hepatitis B.
Moving on, assuming that you do contract an STI, its always a good idea to talk to your
doctor in detail about it, and after that, talk about it with your partner.
Living with incurable STI such as, HIV isn’t as tough as you might have heard. You can still
live as long as any normal person is expected to live and still keep healthy. If you have been
diagnosed with an HIV infection, you shouldn’t delay consulting a doctor who is a specialist
in treating HIV and start your medications as soon as possible. It is well known that HIV is
incurable, yet the viral load can be kept on a low by taking the Antiretroviral Therapy
popularly called as ART. Regularly taking ART will ensure that your immune system stays
strong, you keep the viral load at a lower threshold and you lower the risk of passing on the
virus to your sexual partner or foetus, if you’re pregnant. Make sure you don’t skip your
medicine or take it at irregularly, as it might not help you in the desired manner.
When you first get to know about the infection, its understandable to feel shocked at the
revelation and you would try to figure out from where you acquired it. But its not always
healthy to find a person to point finger at for your miseries, although suggesting your sexual
partners to get tested will no less be a good deed. One should understand that most of the
people infected with an STI are asymptomatic and thus they themselves aren’t aware of
themselves carrying the infection, forget alone telling you about the potential risk.
Nonetheless if your partner was aware of their positive status yet decided to conceal the said
fact from you and didn’t care about using appropriate protection too, then you need to ponder whether the person is worth trusting in the long run or not.
There isn’t any special advice that one is given in terms of nutritional diet when one gets
diagnosed of any STI. It remains the same with you as with everyone else, eat a balanced
diet, cut down on processed foods, have a rich intake of fluids and fibres. When our digestive system is working adequately, it helps you absorb your medicines and nutrition from the food better that helps in keeping your body stronger and well prepared to fight daily infections.
Not taking care of yourself when you have an incurable STI might result you in losing muscle
mass and weight excessively, therefore it is recommended that you develop a healthy
exercising habit and routine. You can join a yoga club or a gym do other physical exercises
such as jogging to keep a healthy heart and stronger bones. After all, a healthy mind rests in a healthy body and we do want to keep miles away from stress.
However, don’t skip talking about it, whether you are infected or not, always talk about the
possibility of such an event and discuss when it’d be best for both of you to get tested before you indulge in any sexual activity to eliminate the chances of passing on the infection.
Also, getting diagnosed with an STI, curable or not, doesn’t mean that a full stop has now
come in your love life. Treat it like a comma, pause, evaluate and proceed as normally you
would. Ensure you do tell your partner about it, allow them to process the new information,
explain to them about it, clear the myths they might be having regarding it, offer them to visit with you to your doctor on next visit so that they can talk to the doctor and understand it better. It might freak them out initially, but do maintain a calm composure and try to
understand their concerns as well. Discuss with them the safe sex methods that you two need to ensure in future and offer them to use PrEP drug (available in India under the name Tenvir EM, it is a prescription drug that is prescribed by a qualified doctor to only high at risk
individuals). Using PrEP will lower the risk of contracting the HIV by 90% and clubbed with
the extra precaution of using a condom at all times when having sex it can bring down the
Always be with a person who respects and supports you nevertheless and understands you. If a person judges you just because you have an STI, you don’t need to take any non-sense from them.